Thriving After a Toxic Relationship: Just Not Surviving!

My newest e-book is available!

Thriving After a Toxic Relationship: Not Just Surviving!

Chances are if you’re reading this you’ve had a relationship with a person who greatly troubled you. Someone who turned your life upside down and all around.

There are many labels put on persons who harm others in non-arrestable ways: Narcissist. Sociopath. Psychopath. While there is a definite agreement with what constitutes a narcissist, it isn’t quite so cut-and-dried with what constitutes a sociopath versus a psychopath. The terms are often used interchangeably.

So we will call them “toxic people.” Toxic people are not good for us. And we’ve learned that lesson the hard way—through experience.

There will be many mini-lessons throughout this book but the first lesson I want you to learn is this: Psychopaths, sociopaths, and narcissists cannot be cured. They cannot be fixed. Not by the world’s best psychiatrists. Not by love…and not by you. You cannot fix a toxic person. The only one you can fix is you!

Isn’t that a liberating thought—you cannot fix anyone! You can now focus on the most important person to fix—yourself!

So, you know the person is toxic. He or she cannot be fixed. Picture a venomous snake in your mind—you cannot stop this snake from being deadly. When you even think of “trying again” to help the toxic person, remember the snake. If you have a snake phobia, think of something else that’s deadly toxic and when the toxic person comes to mind, associate him/her with something toxic. Do this each time to remind yourself to Not Touch!

A big reason, maybe the most important reason, to stop trying to fix someone else, to stop trying to fix a relationship that has ended is that it prevents you from fixing you. YOU are important and need attention from yourself. Likely you’ve let yourself and your needs go for so long that you need a lot of self-care. You will need to learn about what you need. What makes you happy. A toxic relationship won’t make you happy, believe me

You deserve to be happy. And you will be. It may take some time. But once you realize that there is freedom after a toxic relationship, you will be happier! The worst has already happened—a relationship ended badly and you were hurt. Once you realize that the worst is over and you begin letting the toxic person go, you can begin to heal.

My newest e-book Thriving After a Toxic Relationship is now available on amazon.com!

Thriving After a Toxic Relationship: Not Just Surviving!


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Relational Aggression: Spot it, stop it!

Too many "experts" say that children should not feel shame when they hurt someone. But many of us know that when one doesn't feel shame, it is due to a lack of conscience. Is that what we really want--a child who feels no remorse or shame? When those children grow up they often abuse their partners or children. They are sometimes known as sociopaths, psychopaths, or narcissists.

After being involved in anti-bullying for many years now, I see a lot of what constitutes bullying, or relational aggression. Everyone knows it is harmful. Bullies are many times more likely to commit crimes before age 24, and victims are susceptible to many problems, physical and emotional: cutting, depression, lack of interest in education and life, suicidal thoughts or actions.

Yet, for all the press on what bullying is an what relational aggression is, there is precious little out there on what to DO about it! Many expensive programs are difficult and time consuming to implement. They are often watered down, or forgotten about in short order.

It does NOT have to be hard or expensive! That's why I've written this short (41 pages, estimated) ebook for parents, schools, and organizations.

Relational Aggression: Spot it, stop it!

Practical and commonsense, and ideas that you can start today!

Copyright Julie Patrick Clark 2014
All rights reserved,

Stop Walking on Egoshells...

My second e-book is now available on amazon.com! "Stop Walking on Egoshells" is available on Kindle (if you don't own a Kindle, you can download a free Kindle APP) and read the book on your computer.

My book brings reality home in a 100 couplets that will help affirm that you deserve better than a toxic relationship. Whether you are dealing with a narcissist, sociopath, psychopath, or toxic people, you will see that you are worthy of a real man. You deserve to be treated well, to be loved and cared for. Not cheated on, lied to, and neglected. Once you believe in yourself you will be able to make positive changes in your life! You must believe in yourself before you can make those changes. One small success will lead to another, and another, and another.

I plan several more books in the near future and hope you enjoy the first one!

~Julie

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